The Formula to Plan your Perfect Wedding – Part I
Today is the first installment of our ten-part series on nailing down, once and for all, that all important question:
“What type of wedding do I want!?”
To answer this question you need to have answered, to your own satisfaction, a few much simpler and less daunting ones. So here they are:
“What kind of bride do I want to be?”
Every bride wants the same thing, to be beautiful and have a beautiful day.
How do you want to do that though? Do you want a grand statement? Do you want a quiet day of intimate sharing? Do you want to be the center of attention or just part of the crowd, there to celebrate the life you so blessed to be starting.
Answering this question honestly is going to put you on the right track to planning a ceremony and reception that speaks to your values more than you might think.
“What feeling do I want my guests to have?”
When your nearest and dearest show up to share in the celebration, what do you want to see on their faces? Wonder? Excitement? Reverence? All of those things are possible but you have to understand that the tone you set is a living thing and it is intentional in every single way. You are directing the movie of your life, the set is yours but the rest is all extemporaneous. What do props do you want to provide your cast?
“What memories are most the important to me?”
Do you want the classic mantelpiece silver-framed wedding photos and keepsakes out for each guest to see? Do you want a recording of the whole day for you to watch and re-watch as the years go by? What about a play-by-play blog written by you and your bridesmaids recording every last detail? Can you have a bit of each or maybe your idea of memories is less concrete and you just want to relax now that the big day is here and leave it up to the groom, he is supposed to do something afterall.
“What is the everyday hallmark of my personal style?”
Are you a tomboy? Do you wear a t-shirt and jeans everyday? Are you the everygirl or the standout? Whatever your walk or talk, you should stay true to that unless you are making a specific statement by stepping outside your comfort-zone. For your partner, who may have never seen you in a dress or in fancy makeup and might never again – you have the option to give him one day and night of sexy glamorous womanhood or you can stick to your guns. The choice is yours and it can set the tone for an entire wedding.
And finally, and most important, “Is my wedding for me? Or for them?”
Are we gathered here today to see you marry your one and only or are we gathered here today to make grandma happy? Let’s be serious and honest for a minute. If you’re not that into your wedding, it’s going to show in the choices you make and the way your wedding feels to those who attend. If you’re not doing it for you, get someone else to do the whole thing for you, really. Make sure you love your dress, the cake isn’t some overly traditional out-dated disaster and wash your hands of the whole mess until the big day arrives. If you’re not happy to be there then why did you show up at all? Give up the stress to someone who wants it and just show up to share in the laughter when the time finally comes.
Come back for Part II, when we explore the first of our five questions in-depth.
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